Elder millennials can’t have cool mid-life crises because we’re all too broke. Instead of getting a hair transplant and a Corvette, I got a mental breakdown and a neurodivergence diagnosis. The doctor who did my testing recommended that I look into specific issues that “gifted” and “intense” people face. 
That tip led me to Eggshell Therapy and Coaching, which is an entity run by Imi Lo. That site has a lot of essays written by Imi Lo, and those made me feel very seen. I found her podcast, and listened to an interview with Lauren Sapala.
Lauren Sapala wrote The INFJ Writer, and I bought a digital copy after listening to her interview. Why? Because I appreciated her vibe. She likes coaching people, she likes writing, and she likes being around like-minded people. It just feels nice to be around people who get you, you know?
The usefulness of The INFJ Writer isn’t really in the writing tips, which can be found in lots of places. (Examples might include making a playlist or keeping track of pieces of art that move you, or paying attention to what you’re passionate about.) The usefulness is that Sapala articulates a lot of the feelings of not-belonging that a certain type of person faces. She also provides hope from her own life by showing that belonging can be found.
I appreciated how honest Sapala was about her own journey, including with alcoholism and failed relationships. You can feel that a real person wrote this book, and I left encouraged by the real person.
If you’re an INFJ writer, consider giving it a go.
