I’ve been reading Dan Savage’s Savage Love for years and years now, and when I’m in the mood for Podcasts (which I have to admit, I rarely am, I just can’t seem to get into them, it puzzles me greatly), I often listen to his Savage Lovecast. He’s generally quite open about himself, his life and his experiences, so I already knew that he was married and that they had an adopted child. My BFF Lydia recommended this audio book to me when I visited her in the States in early October, and as my husband and I are trying to get me pregnant, I figured it could be pretty topical.
In this book, Dan relates what happened when he and his then boyfriend (now husband, as far as I’m aware) decided to adopt a child together, at a time and a place where gay adoption was not always a popular choice. They used an organisation which arranged open adoptions, which means that the adoptive parents and the birth mother keep in contact after the adoption and agree on a schedule in which the birth mother can visit her child, should she choose to do so. Dan and Terry were the first gay men to successfully adopt through the agency they used.
The book is divided into three parts, chronicling the couple’s decision process, the application stage, the waiting period where they were wondering if they’d ever get picked, followed by the period in which they got to know the birth mother of their child, a street punk (a girl who is voluntarily homeless) from Portland..Due to her history of drinking and recreational drug experimentation before she realised she was pregnant, there were possibilities for complications with the baby, and Dan and Terry had to consider carefully whether they wanted to adopt this young woman’s child. More on my blog.